The WORST Things To Say To A Pregnant Person

When you become pregnant, one thing I wasn't warned about was the amount of unwanted questions and comments you would get. Don't get me wrong, most the time they are completely unharmful and the person saying it doesn't mean anything by it but everyone seems to think they know what your pregnancy is going to be like, and everything you will go through. Every person is very different and no two pregnancies are the same (please, take note!). I wanted to share a few of the worst things you could possibly say to a pregnant person, and probably even worse, a heavily pregnant lady counting down the hours.

Have you not had that baby yet?!
Nope, you caught me! I'm still huge, complaining every day about symptoms but yep, she is sat at home without me! Ooops.

Wow, your huge, are you sure your not having twins?
Strangely, I've had this one quite a lot. I think I look 'big' because I'm quite small naturally, I'm not sure, but I find this one so rude. Unless over the 5 scans I've had, they've missed something, there is only one baby in there, trust me.

Have you thought of a name yet?
Yep, we have a few in mind but I'm going to tell you 'no' because I don't want to tell you. Nosey.

Get your sleep whilst you can! You won't be sleeping when she is here.
I cannot count how many times I've been told this recently as I've got later in my pregnancy. Pregnancy insomnia is a thing and a lot of my mummy blogger friends suffer too. No matter how many times I am told to get sleep now, it won't make me suddenly fall asleep. So just don't say it. All I'll reply to you is 'I can't'.

Was it planned? Have you been with the dad for long?
K & I recently went to a family party and I was asked this a lot. I think its probably a huge stereotype, as I am 20 years old and about to give birth to a human. No, she wasn't planned, but I'm not sure if how long I've been with the dad is any of your business..... but in case you did wonder, we have been together for 5 years.

You shouldn't be eating that...
Luckily I haven't had this much as everyone around me knows I'm a very fussy eater, so their view is as long as I eat something its better than nothing (thanks family).

However, I will never forget when I was around 30 weeks pregnant during our heatwave, strolling round a car boot and I got a screwball ice cream (if you don't know what that is, essentially a Mr whippy in a plastic cone with a bit of bubblegum at the bottom). I had read all about avoiding Mr Whippy ice creams, but decided I wouldn't bother as there isn't actually much evidence to show its harmful... I was happily eating my ice cream when some fat, bald, old man comes up to me and says 'just to let you know, you really shouldn't be eating that'. He didn't even say it in a nice way, which made me even angrier. I simply replied 'I will eat what I want, but thanks for the concern'. If it isn't bad enough being judged for everything you eat/drink by your closest family, some complete stranger has just come up to me and told me what I should and shouldn't eat. Safe to say he got a death stare and he quickly popped off.

Baby will come when she's ready!
Thanks for reminding me. I dare you to tell me, a heavily pregnant very fed up hating life whale lady, that baby will come when she's ready. I am very aware she will take her time, and come, WHEN SHE IS READY!!

Now I've got that off my chest, I am feeling better already. PHEW.
Did you get any of these whiles you were pregnant? What was your worst one? Would love to hear your experiences!

Why I've Hated Every Minute Of Pregnancy

Okay, maybe a bit of an exaggeration but I can't be the only person to say I really, really dislike being pregnant. I never for a minute thought I'd be one of those people who loved every minute of pregnancy, but I can't really remember a minute I have enjoyed. I think I peaked at around 26-28 weeks when I felt normal, but before that and after that it's not been a good run.

My mum always says that I'm a drama queen (obviously this isn't true *princess emoji*) and pregnancy probably hasn't helped that. The problem is, you become a worrying wreck during pregnancy. Any kind of movement (or lack of in my case), any strange coloured liquid that comes out of you TMI or anything that feels slightly different is a panic. I, and a lot of pregnant people I know have been back and forth to the hospital like its our second home. 

I've been blessed to not have too many symptoms, except constant exhaustion. At the start, I had constant nausea, which although it isn't nice it is manageable. I haven't had sickness, my nipples haven't leaked yet, I haven't had any stretch marks (except my boobs), and I have had a fairly smooth ride. I have developed SPD, which is crippling so I guess it makes up for the other symptoms. But I really do feel for those who have suffered with anything and everything, as I've struggled with my few symptoms. 

When I lay in bed having woken up for the 194357th time that night, sweating buckets whiles being very uncomfortable and struggling to breath I do wonder what on earth was going through my mind when I decided this baby would be a good idea. I can't wait for her arrival, don't get me wrong, but I can't lie and say I've enjoyed the run up to it. The best bit has been buying cute clothes and I can't say I'd recommend pregnancy to anyone, EVER. Just don't do it to yourself.

Are you pregnant? Did you enjoy your pregnancy? 

Daisy xxx

My 4D Scan Experience

From the minute I found out I was pregnant, I knew I always wanted to have a 4D scan. When I was researching in to it, my brain was mushed by 3D/4D scans, all the different packages, all the extras you could buy, all the places that do them I honestly didn't have a clue. I asked on Twitter and a few baby groups on Facebook and like everything else, everyone had their opinion and I was no further forward picking a location to have my scan. If I'm honest, I completely stopped looking for a good few weeks because I was so overwhelmed by it all.

I knew time was ticking as they won't do 4D scans after a certain amount of weeks so when I was around 24-25 weeks I started to look in to it again. I found a place in my own town, which I didn't know even existed, with Ultrasound-Direct (Baby Bond). There was a package called 'simply 4D scan', which was the cheapest I had seen a scan anywhere. It was £59, with the option to add on extras (photos, DVD etc). I booked it without even thinking twice. 

I was able to pay half and then the rest at the scan, which I think is really lovely as it can sometimes be a lot of money to pay out in one go. I also chose to add on a USB stick of pictures which was an extra £15 which I didn't mind as I would always have the pictures of my baby.

When we arrived we were shown to a lovely little room, it was very dark and quiet which was really relaxing. I decided to take K and my mum, as she hadn't been to any of my previous scans and it was something I really wanted her to see. The lady came out to let us know she was running a bit late but I didn't mind at all, I was so excited I had barely slept the night before! I can't remember exactly but I believe I was around 26+1 when I actually had my scan. The Simply 4D scan only offers from 25-28 weeks so I was perfect timing. 

The package included a 15 minute appointment, about 10 minutes of that is actual scan which doesn't sound like a lot compared to some packages where you get a lot of scan time but we all agreed when we came out that you couldn't have had much longer scan because we had seen all there was to see, I really don't think I could've sat there for much longer seeing it all over again! 

Luckily baby played nicely and let us see her really well, and also confirmed the sex as I still didn't believe she was a girl (and yes, she really is a girl, I saw her bits!!!!). We saw her beautiful face, hands and feet. She looks like her daddy already which is scary. I always thought people were mad when they compared a scan to a person but honestly, she has daddy's big nose and pouty lips like mummy! 

Baby Bond have studios all over the UK and offer so many different packages (although it can be scary picking them!). Everyone has their own opinions on 4D scans, some say its a waste of money however I would happily spend that money again to see our baby. I am actually desperate to have another scan before she arrives but I am running out of time!

Have you had a 4D scan? What did you think?

Daisy xxx

What does a baby actually need?

When I found out I was pregnant, before even knowing the sex we went to our closest Mothercare which is quite a large one. My baby was going to have e v e r y t h i n g brand new, everything. I wasn't going to compromise, she was only having the best of the best. 

The buggy we picked was £840 for just the base, it didn't come with a car seat (or anything else for that matter) and that was an extra £200+ on top but it didn't matter, that was the buggy she was having. 

I picked the furniture for her room, a room she didn't actually have as we both still live with our parents, but again that didn't matter because at least she would have nice furniture, and her room would one day be pretty. 

After a few months of picking up bits and pieces, an opportunity for a house came up. We went to visit the house about a month ago and fell in love with it. I was having the house weather it meant struggling, believe me. Now with just over 9 weeks to go, moving in to our first house with nothing and still lots to get for our little princess the reality is setting in fast. I can't afford that £1000 buggy, I can't afford the £700 three piece furniture set I so badly wanted and I am going to have to compromise.

The problem is, these days there is far too much to choose from. My mind is mush with all the gadgets and technology you can buy, but what does a baby actually need? Lots of people will tell you as long as your little one has a roof, clean clothes, food and love they have everything they need. I'm beginning to realise that this is very true, and although we will never struggle to support our baby, for the first few years she might not have everything in the world but that is okay, as we will be a family and at the end of the day thats all that matters. 

My HUGE Announcement!!! | Lifestyle

Hi guys! Long time no speak. If you follow me on Twitter or are my Facebook friend you will probably already know I'M PREGNANT! Now its out in the open I just want to shout it from the roof tops. I have known for over 2 months so it feels so good to be able to let the world know too. As I write this, I am 13 weeks pregnant today, so yesterday I had my official '12 week dating scan' (which is the time that most people wait to share the news as you are in the safer stages!). I have so so much to say so I'm not sure weather I'll split this in to two posts or just one huge one! 

So the thing everyone loves to know, how did I find out? It was actually my boyfriend that was telling me to do a test. I had no symptoms whatsoever, and for some reason he just knew. I was at my best friend Dani's house and she had a spare test so she told me to do that one. Off I went upstairs to do it, I think if you're expecting it to come back positive you wait around nervously and time feels like its going by so slowly... I was the complete opposite. I did my wee on the stick (gross, I'm sorry) and just looked at it. Obviously I didn't expect it to say anything so I wasn't that bothered. Oh how wrong I was. I think the tests suggest you wait about 5 minutes or so, but my test was instant. Instant isn't even the word, it didn't even take a mini second. It was positive. 

My bestie wasn't expecting it either, to be honest we were both just doing it to shut K up as he had been going on for ages. I went downstairs and was nervously grinning. She thought I was just nervous, or trying to wind her up. I just turned it around and showed her. We were both in complete shock! We literally put on our shoes and went straight to Asda as I needed more tests to be certain. 

I splashed out on a Clearblue test (the one that says how many weeks) and a pack of cheaper Asda own ones. When I got home I did the Clearblue, which again came back straight away as positive but you have to wait a little bit longer for the weeks to come back. I also did one of the cheaper tests which yet again was instant. I was pregnant. It was certain. The Clearblue test came back as 3+ weeks (which is the most it says, so I could be anything from 3 weeks+). I kind of had it in my head I was around 5-6 weeks meaning my due date would be end of October/November time. I made my appointments with the midwife and got my first scan date through pretty quickly.

Forward on a few weeks, I was at work and had just downed quite a large drink of hot chocolate. I had incredible stomach bloating which was a bit sore and I mentioned it to a few of the girls. I went and sat in the back office for a few minutes which was followed by absolute immense abdominal pain. I kept my cool until someone I work with came in and said 'are you okay?' (you know thats the worst thing to ask someone if they aren't okay) and I just broke down. I had recently found out I was pregnant, I had no idea how far gone I was and was in SO much pain. I rung my midwife and she suggested I get myself to hospital if its that bad, better to be safe than sorry. Some of the girls at work made the decision for me that I was going to A&E. My mum met me up there followed by my step dad and boyfriend. I had some blood tests etc and the nurse felt for baby, all seemed fine. Then she told me to head up to ward F14 but no information was given, I didn't even know what F14 was! Turned out it was the EPU (early pregnancy unit) and I was having an emergency scan. I am so glad I got to have an early scan, although it wasn't in the best circumstances but it made me SO at ease and I've not had any type of pains since! She dated me which made my due date of the 19th or 20th November. 

Yesterday I had my official dating scan, which is the one where you get the scan picture and do it all properly, not in a state of panic. She changed my date again, but I think the 12 week dating scan is pretty accurate. My due date is now 15th November, so it's only changed by a few days. K's birthday is the 13th so I am making a bet it will come then.

I am conscious this is becoming such a long post so I think I might follow up with a 13 week update where I will go in to more detail about how I'm feeling etc. I am also obsessed with reading mummy blog posts, I love reading ones close to the same dates as me to see how everyone else is feeling! Please leave your recommendations!! 

Daisy xxx

PS- thank you SO much for all your kind words etc on Twitter!! I LOVE YOU ALL!!